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Answers: How to live wisely

 I am starting this post with a question I want you to answer – What do you do when your back is against the wall?

I have always summarized my actions into nuggets that guide my actions and decisions. My plan with this post is to share my top 50 answers, and hopefully, I will be able to write/talk about the details of these answers and their circumstances. Before I get to that point, I will take this post as a gauge of appetite – If everything goes well, this might become a self-help book in the future. 

I have titled this post "Answers" because that is what it is about, and they have helped me get to where I am right now. 

So here goes the answers: 

  1. God is one, he's right and means the best
  2. God loves you- he really does
  3. Don't despise wealth; Don't obsessively desire riches; Be grateful for every benefit
  4. Think about one good thing that you're grateful for in this situation
  5. Do what your boss wants; It's in your place to make your boss trust you (Titus 2:9-10)
  6. Don't ever tell lies, it's very expensive.
  7. Be curious
  8. Tried sleeping?
  9. Be responsible 
  10. Rid yourself of ambition 
  11. Be honest; lies are expensive 
  12. Assume you're at fault
  13. Take responsibility 
  14. Love everyone evidently
  15. Take healthy risks 
  16. Play from a place of advantage (1 Sam 17:38-50)
  17. No one owes you anything 
  18. Read the Bible (2 Tim 3:16)
  19. Loving requires acknowledging we are all fallible
  20. Put on a smile 
  21. Keep doing the right things 
  22. Write down 3 things you need to improve
  23. Stop optimising for happiness; it's expensive 
  24. Peace is the goal 
  25. Ensure stability
  26. Be sober (Titus 2:2-6)
  27. Be kind to yourself 
  28. Don't overthink things 
  29. Be free like a child
  30. It's okay to not be close to your friends. 
  31. Be vulnerable 
  32. Be bold; not arrogant 
  33. Accept you know little 
  34. Push less; position for more pull 
  35. You can't predict outcomes; improve your output.
  36. Trust your words
  37. Say more with less 
  38. Be comfortable with quietness
  39. You're not in a race for time
  40. Prayyyy!! 
  41. Avoid conflict, embrace conversations 
  42. Have difficult conversations 
  43. Forgive 
  44. Separate issues from people 
  45. Don't be caught in a circus 
  46. Ego and arrogance will cause you pain 
  47. Just do something (Matt 25:14-30)
  48. Always guarantee surplus (Matt 25:1-13)
  49. Life is a game of margins, always optimize for margins 
  50. Be kind to yourself, respect yourself 

If you need me to explain any of these in detail, I am happy to do a call, video post or long form article per your request. So, please don't hesitate to let me know your thoughts. 

Thank you for reading this. 

Remember, God loves you! 
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Anonymous said…
This is an eye opener for me. Life is capable of getting a lot easier, only if humans can be guided by said principles.
7 March 2025 at 10:22
Ayodele Adeyemo said…
thank you! it’s a journey and we should make the best of it
9 March 2025 at 05:14
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