Friendships and shared realities

July 1, 2023


Today, I realized that the commonality of our realities as individuals can be an indicator of our growth, quality of friendships and a way to check if we need to change our primary circle.

If you’re a founder, you should have other founders in your primary circle. A non founder friend however great doesn’t and can’t share the realities with you.

You can’t blame them, they just can’t be the best for you.

Sometimes, our friends are not bad people for not helping, they just don’t know how to help and (we hate to admit it) they are too ashamed to admit it

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