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On self worth and ego

On my way to church this morning, I started thinking about worth, value, ego and pride. These are all commonly used words that are all related.  For most people, their sense of value and pride is in their work, children, career and wealth. This is very apparent in the things we optimize for and how we go about them. Whilst this is great, I’ve recently realised that we seem to be focused on the wrong things.  Work, wealth, children, career and other things life can offer are benefits but they cannot define our sense of worth because of how ephemeral they are. Just yesterday, a friend was telling about a company that went down to zero from $4B valuation. That’s just one example, there a other cases we’ve seen.  So what’s my prescription here? The simple answer is God. God is simply the answer.  The scriptures records different stories, instructions and sermons that communicate the love of God. In my interpretation, I see that the love of God exemplifies his value and w...
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Answers: How to live wisely

 I am starting this post with a question I want you to answer – What do you do when your back is against the wall? I have always summarized my actions into nuggets that guide my actions and decisions. My plan with this post is to share my top 50 answers, and hopefully, I will be able to write/talk about the details of these answers and their circumstances. Before I get to that point, I will take this post as a gauge of appetite – If everything goes well, this might become a self-help book in the future.  I have titled this post "Answers" because that is what it is about, and they have helped me get to where I am right now.  So here goes the answers:  God is one, he's right and means the best God loves you- he really does Don't despise wealth; Don't obsessively desire riches; Be grateful for every benefit Think about one good thing that you're grateful for in this situation Do what your boss wants; It's in your place to make your boss trust you (Titus 2:9-1...

Dear Iyoaye: Note to self

I wrote this note to myself the morning I turned 30 and it was born out of my reflection of my journey so far and a peek into the future – how I planned to spend the rest of my life. I wrote this in a journal and pretty much left it there until a few days ago when it popped on my mind again and I wanted to share it.  Here it goes:  There are many things to be grateful for! It's been a year of lessons, struggles, wins, and clarity. I am now focused on the next phase—technically, the  action  phase of my life. For context, I believe life has three stages: Preparation, Action, and Rest. While we don't have control over if and how soon we experience a phase, neither can we control how we get out of a phase — time and chance happen to us all, it is quite safe and easier to think about these phases as equal amounts of time such that you spend 1/3 of your life in each phase or about 50-70% of your life in preparation and action phase combined. (I might write more about this...

My Generosity Creed

Oh! Happy New Year! I can't promise to write more often this year but I will be kind enough to share my thoughts in their rawest form and I hope I can get your thoughts on them. Today is not the day to talk about the year but I have been on a retreat and it's been refreshing how God has been dealing with me - ( not in the Nigerian parent sense haha).  It's been a perfect time and I'm loving the experience. The last time I felt this way was in 2019-2020; those months were the best part of my life.  Today, I saw a video of Richard Garnett talking about Eternal treasures . A few minutes into the video God was saying "Yes! That is for you" considering he had schooled me a few days from Isaiah 44 with specific instructions on how to use my resources given a metaphor of the cedar wood -- burning for heat (Protection/Health) , burn to bake bread (Sustenance) , and burning to roast meat (Enjoyment) .  After watching the video, I started praying and Paul's sermon ...

When truths conflict

Last night, I was watching a video of Pastor Driscoll reacting to the trailer of the new Netflix movie “Will and Harper”. While watching his reaction, a thought popped into my mind and it’s something I have heard/read different variations of it  — this idea that we all have our truths and we need to be true to ourselves.  I find this very conflicting every time I hear it… and I question how much should we care about people’s self-serving “truths” even when they are not in any way helping us to become better as a society.  I don’t have answers here but I am very worried we driving our society toward a place where people will do things because they feel like their defense will be “their truths”. As with every society, if the “good” side is unlucky enough to not be popular, we will have a situation where evil will reign and we will not be able to do anything about it.  What are your thoughts on people’s truth? Have you had situations where someone’s truth conflicted wit...

Preserving Dee W. Hock’s Legacy

I was chatting to a friend recently when I mentioned Dee W Hock to them and to my shock they’ve never heard of Dee. Still, the interesting thing is that we interface with the work Dee dedicated about 40 years of his lifetime to — Visa (the financial technology company that powers 47% of credit/debit cards issued globally). It’s massive bruh!😤 Dee lived a very quiet life, but he published a number of books, articles, blogs, and tweets that provided a different perspective on life and provoked questions that over 90% of us would not ask in our lifetime. In addition to his Twitter page, he maintained a very simple website where all his writings were hosted.  A few weeks before my discussion with my friend, I randomly thought about Dee and I went through his X/Twitter account to re-read some of his tweets. At that moment, I remembered his website and wondered how it would be managed.  Well, I checked, and I noticed it’s been redesigned. Now, it serves as Dee’s legacy beyond VISA....

My Daily Prayer

I know it’s been a while but I just randomly thought to share only of my prayers. This prayer is one for accountability and responsibility, and I hope you say these words:  Lord I thank you for the blessings in my life,  I pray I’m not carried away by the bliss thereof that i am not available for your purpose for me.  Help me to know that which you’re doing and help me be a part of it.  All that I have and am, is yours and I pray to be a great steward that’s accountable and responsible for the blessings.  Thank you for answering me always.  Your Son, Ayodele